A special thanks goes out to all that have shared thoughts on the topic of not having kids whether they chose that path or not. I have kept all of those thoughts tucked away for future posts. I haven’t posted in a while…well…. because life has been a little busy. I was reminded to post earlier in the week in a couple situations. The first was at a doctor’s appointment where I was asked what was my husband going to do for me for Mother’s Day. Rather than having to start a conversation of why we don’t have kids yet, I just said “no plans in particular….We will be busy doing our best to spoil our own mothers.” The nurse exchanged a glance with me in understanding. However, the doctor continued to express disbelief that my husband had nothing planned for me. It felt as though she was convinced someone our age must have kids and must have big plans. She proceeded to tell me that I needed to make it clear to him he must have a plan. She doesn’t know that we don’t have kids or that everyday with him is an adventure and no special plans are needed. I just kept quiet for the rest of the appointment. Later on that day I had another reminder to post on the blog. It was something that has also been shared by other readers. It is the assumption that if you have a day off work you will not be busy if you don’t have kids. I find that people use that assumption to think it is okay to cross boundaries. The older I have gotten I have learned to say no and have learned to work on not feeling guilty in doing so. This is important for my own well being. Often the person you say no to uses the guilt to get you to do whatever they are seeking. One reader shared this statement. “You are probably sitting at home doing nothing. You don’t have kids.” Another reader that shared concern over these statements who does have kids proposed this question. “Do you remember what life was like before kids?” Everyone agreed with her that life certainly changes after kids and many adjustments have to be made. However, most said they were just as busy before but the busyness changed. There are new priorities. If you have a home, you are busy. There is always something to clean, repair, straighten….etc. If you also own a business, the same applies. Pets are sometimes our focus and keep us busy. Helping to care for a family member can be a full time job. Are we wrong to make these things a priority? No. These are the things that make us who we are. Those that are juggling all of these things plus kids…..I’m pretty sure this is why wine and margaritas were invented! And to you I say Happy Mother’s Day and enjoy your day however you see fit…. Big plans or no plans. Just keep in mind that just because someone does not have kids, that doesn’t mean they are not busy or do not have other important priorities at this time.