I have always loved getting invitations to birthday parties for my friend’s kids. I love being included in their lives because I have prayed for these kids even before they were born. It is a joy to watch them grow up. Baby showers are hard, but no one can appreciate what a miracle this new bundle of joy is like a person who will never get to experience this. I go and have fun celebrating this miracle. Not everyone can do that. Over the years, I have talked to others that simply cannot attend these events. Sometimes it is just too painful a reminder of what they have lost, or they simply want to avoid the questions they might get. If your friend has the courage to attend, one thing we all ask of you is please do not introduce him or her as the only one there that does not have kids. It will become evident soon enough in conversation. While it may seem that you are highlighting your friend’s strength for attending or that you are pointing out how much it means to you for them to be there……just don’t. Save that for a private conversation later. Celebrate the bravery of your friend later.